Ready to Conceive? You Should Do These Things First

If you’re ready to have a baby, there are some things beyond the birds-and-bees basics that you learned in a middle school biology class that you should know before trying to conceive. While you don’t have to meticulously plan every detail of motherhood, there are ways you can adjust your lifestyle that will enhance your fertility. So if you’re ready to conceive, you should do these things first. 

Track Your Cycle

The best time to conceive is right around ovulation so it’s important to know when you’re ovulating. Ovulation normally happens about midway through your cycle, about 11-14 days after the first day of your menstrual period. But because menstrual cycles can vary so extensively from person to person, it’s a good idea to track your cycle for several months, keeping track of when you start your period, how long it lasts, and when you are ovulating. Your most fertile days are the two or three before and after actual ovulation, so plan to have intercourse multiple times during that time window. 

Start Taking Prenatal Vitamins

Studies have shown that taking a multivitamin with folic acid – an active ingredient in prenatal vitamins – dramatically lowers the risk of birth defects and helps the body to produce healthy new cells. This vitamin can’t be stored in your body which is why we recommend that women who are ready to conceive should take a multivitamin fortified with folic acid ideally three months before you conceive. 

If You Smoke, Quit Now

Smoking during pregnancy is a huge no-no as it can have serious negative consequences for the fetus, so it pays to quit before you even reach that stage. There is a direct correlation between smoking and reduced fertility so smoking can affect both your ability to get and stay pregnant. But we bear some good news: this mostly affects current smokers rather than those who have quit. Determine that you’ll quit now and if you feel it’ll help, talk to a provider about how to do it effectively. 

Watch Your Weight

Being over or underweight can affect your hormones and, as a result, throw off your menstrual cycle and fertility. When you’re trying to conceive, one of the most important things you can do is try to maintain a healthy lifestyle and weight, which includes an optimal BMI of 19 to 25. According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, 12% of all infertility cases are the result of “deviations in body weight from the established norm.” Women who are underweight may lose their menstrual cycles or have irregular ovulation, making it difficult to know when you’re most fertile or ovulating.

Reduce Stress

Stress is inevitable during this time; even just the stress of trying to have a baby can put stress on your body and make it difficult to conceive. Stress causes the body to release the hormone cortisol, which can impact many of the body’s systems and interfere with a normal hormone balance. 

If you are someone who finds it difficult to relax, strive to make it more than a bullet on your to-do list. Create a routine around taking time to de-stress and relax, something that works for you and can look different from another woman’s routine. This might include regular exercise that aids in stress reduction like meditation, yoga, pilates, deep breathing, creating a more consistent sleep schedule, or eating healthy foods that you take the time to cook yourself.

pregnancy do’s and don’ts

The Do’s and Don’ts of Pregnancy

How much coffee can I drink while I’m pregnant? Can I continue my after-workout routine of sweating all the toxins out in a sauna? Is it unsafe to clean up after my cat? Then what about my dog? Chances are, since finding out you’re pregnant, you’ve had a lot of questions about what you can and can’t do and you’ve probably received a lot of well-meaning albeit unwarranted advice from outside sources. So what are the true pregnancy do’s and don’ts that are important for you to follow in order to maintain yours and your baby’s health? Well, we’ve got you covered.


Take prenatal multivitamins

During your pregnancy, you’ll require more vitamins and minerals than before you were pregnant. Folic acid and zinc are just two examples of the vitamins you’ll need so you should start taking prenatal vitamins which help to lower the risk of neural birth defects once you find out you’re pregnant. 

Get ample sleep

There are a lot of factors at play during pregnancy that could negatively affect your sleep schedule: there’s not only the changing hormone levels but also the anxiety and anticipation. Sleep is especially necessary during the demanding throes of the final trimester so you should schedule naps whenever you have the time, set bedtimes, and stick to them. Try to get at least 7-9 hours of sleep a night to fend off the feelings of fatigue that are practically inevitable. 

Work out

Exercise is good for both mama and baby and can be used to combat problems that tend to arise during pregnancy like excessive weight gain, insomnia, mood swings, and muscle pain. Speak with your doctor about making adjustments to your workout routine if you regularly exercised before you became pregnant. This is especially important as you move into the second and third trimesters. 

If exercise was not a part of your regular routine before pregnancy, ask your doctor about incorporating it into your routine now. They can help you develop an exercise plan that’s safe and comfortable for you and your developing baby. 

Yoga is a great exercise when you’re expecting – excluding hot yoga or Bikram. Look for prenatal or gentle yoga classes as they are specifically designed for expecting mothers and the instructors will know which poses are best for your condition. 

Monitor weight gain

The old adage that you are eating for two is not just an excuse for expecting mothers to eat absolute junk for the entirety of her pregnancy. You should be strategic about what you’re putting in your body and how much you’re consuming. Gaining too much weight during pregnancy can actually harm your baby.

You may be surprised to find out that during your first trimester, you only need to consume about 100 extra calories a day to support the growing baby. By your third trimester, that number jumps to about 300 extra calories per day. 

Watch what you eat

There are lots of foods out there that are not safe to eat during pregnancy: raw and undercooked meat and eggs, seafood containing high levels of mercury, unpasteurized milk and cheese, and deli meats. For a complete list of what to eat during pregnancy and what to avoid check out our article here.

Avoid harmful fumes

We know you may have been looking forward to painting your nursery since you found out you were pregnant but the chemicals and solvents in paint can be toxic and harmful to you and your baby. If you want to paint the nursery, you should use natural or organic paints. 



Smoke, even breathed in secondhand, is linked to many complications such as miscarriage, cancer, premature delivery, low birth weight, sudden infant death syndrome, or developmental issues as the baby grows up. Contact with tobacco should be avoided at all costs.

Drink Alcohol

No amount of alcohol is safe for consumption during pregnancy as it can result in fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS) and symptoms like learning disabilities, lagging development, low birth weight, and behavioral problems. 

If you are struggling to quit drinking alcohol while you’re pregnant, talk to your doctor immediately. The sooner you seek help, the healthier your baby is likely to be. 

Sit in a hot tub or sauna

The high temperatures in hot tubs and saunas can be dangerous to an expecting mother as sitting in them can raise the body temperature, causing problems that can increase the risk of birth defects or miscarriage, particularly during the first trimester. 

Drink lots of caffeine

Different sources will recommend different amounts of coffee consumption during pregnancy, but we say err on the side of caution. One cup a day is a safe amount to consume. 

Clean the cat’s litter box

You might be surprised to hear that this is a don’t during pregnancy but feline waste is filled with millions of parasites and bacteria that can cause toxoplasmosis and severely harm your baby. If you come into contact with it, you might not even know until you have complications with your pregnancy that could potentially include a miscarriage or stillbirth. You can pet your furry friend all you like, washing your hands afterward, but stay away from its litter box. 

If you’re searching for an effective alternative, there are self-cleaning litter boxes on the market. 

Use products that let off electromagnetic radiation

This may be one you haven’t heard of often but there are plenty of products that emit harmful electromagnetic radiation that can harm the fetus and lead to miscarriages. This includes microwaves, electric blankets, waterbeds, and X-rays, particularly in the abdominal area.


What is Menopause and How Can I Manage the Symptoms?

Menopause, which quite literally means the pause of menses (your period), is likely something you’ve heard of before: maybe from your mom or an older sister or friend. While some women can manage to skate right through this time with little to no symptoms, others experience all the classics: hot flashes, mood swings, night sweats, and trouble sleeping. But, although people are quick to talk about a few of the symptoms they’re experiencing, you will notice that far fewer people talk about the whole picture. That’s exactly why we’re here to give you the bigger picture of what life after menopause looks like. Knowing what you can expect can help to alleviate your worries, help you effectively treat your symptoms, and lower the risks of certain conditions and diseases that can come as a result. 

What is happening to my body during menopause?

The transition to menopause, formally called perimenopause, takes place over the course of several years. You’ll know you are officially in menopause when you have not gotten your period for 12 months straight. The ovaries gradually stop producing estrogen resulting in hormonal fluctuations as the body adjusts to what can be characterized as the shut-down of the ovaries. By the 12-month mark, your ovaries have significantly reduced the production of both hormones estrogen and progesterone. 

This can result in some metabolic and physiological changes that over time affect your body’s composition. 

Managing your menopause symptoms

Women often will try to manage their menopause symptoms on their own for fear of embarrassment in reporting the issues they’re experiencing to their provider. But there’s no need to be embarrassed and we encourage you to speak openly about your symptoms and work with your healthcare provider to find an effective treatment. That may come in the form of hormonal replacement therapy, non-medical methods like exercise and a modified diet, or other treatments tailored to your needs. 

Many of the changes that occur during menopause – anxiety, mood swings, and depression to name a few – are not physical changes but are the result of hormone changes. When coupled with physical changes, these emotional changes can wreak havoc on your life and sleep schedule. That’s why it’s so important to speak to your provider who can assist you in developing a treatment plan that’s right for you. 


What does life after menopause look like?

Life after menopause doesn’t have to look that different from life before, especially if you maintain an open line of communication with your doctor. 

There are some ways you can minimize your menopausal symptoms (we’ll talk a little more about that later) that can help you maintain a healthy lifestyle. But you should also make sure you are getting regular health screenings and staying up to date on vaccines in order to prevent health concerns from becoming a bigger deal later. 

What can I do to minimize my symptoms?

Increase exercise

Exercise, no matter the intensity, is highly beneficial for women who are post-menopausal. As we’ve mentioned, menopause can result in weight gain, so in order to counteract that change in body composition, physical activity is necessary. Want to know something pretty great? This is one area where being post-menopausal gives you a leg up: physical activity has a greater impact on your body after menopause than before. So even if you engage in light physical activity, you will likely see the positive effects. Small lifestyle changes like gardening and walking can make a big difference. 

Watch what you eat

The best way to maintain your target body composition may require a permanent change in your lifestyle and routine rather than the dieting approaches you may have taken in the past. Instead of taking a restrictive dieting approach, focus on just watching what you eat and drink; choose nutritious foods while limiting processed foods, alcohol, and sweets. 

Get plenty of sleep

A well-known result of menopause is a lack of sleep which can then affect hormones that control other aspects of your body. Practicing good sleep habits means trying to get 7-9 hours of sleep every night and implementing practices that promote quality sleep: regular exercise, decreased caffeine, avoiding long naps, establishing a relaxing bedtime routine, and creating a comfortable sleep environment.

Irregular periods

What’s Causing My Irregular Periods?

Abnormal menstrual cycles are a difficult issue to pinpoint as hormones are a tricky subject and can impact a number of different factors and bodily systems. In order to understand how you can regulate menstruation and balance hormones naturally, it’s important to know the potential causes and lifestyle habits that can negatively affect your hormonal levels. 

Having a regular, moderately pain-free period each month is a good indication that your hormones are in balance and the reproductive system is working properly. But the opposite is also true: irregular and missed periods, or very painful, intense PMS symptoms could be a sign that your hormone levels are out of whack — either lacking or too high. 

The 8 Most Common Causes of Irregular or Missed Periods

Besides being pregnant and going through menopause, which both naturally stop a woman from getting her period, here are the other major causes of missed or irregular periods:

Cause #1: High Stress Levels

When you’re under a lot of stress for an extended period of time, your body makes an effort to conserve energy as a sort of fight or flight response. As a result, it will prevent ovulation because this is a process that your body sees as secondary when compared to survival. Several factors could contribute to this — experiencing a traumatic event, restricting your eating, and exercising an excessive amount could cause irregularity (repeated fight or flight). The body gives priority to producing stress hormones that will help you survive in a crisis, so sex hormone production takes a backseat. 

When estrogen level falls below normal, you aren’t able to build up the uterine lining (that you are shedding during your period) so as a result, you don’t get your period. 

Cause #2: A Poor Diet

A diet that’s low in nutrients, antioxidants, and probiotic foods yet high in stimulants takes a toll on the adrenal glands and thyroid. For example, eating a diet that’s high in sugar, hydrogenated fats, and artificial additives is linked with thyroid issues and adrenal fatigue that can raise cortisol. Excess cortisol hinders the function of many other essential hormones, including sex hormones. It also can lead to the breakdown of bones, skin, muscles, and brain tissue if you continue to maintain high levels over a long period of time. If you’re not experiencing regular menstruation, make sure you’re eating enough food and that’s the right kind: foods that are high in antioxidants, nutrient-dense, and with plenty of protein.

Cause #3: Extreme Weight Loss and Low BMI

When your body mass index (BMI) falls below 18 or 19, you may miss your period because of the lack of body fat, which is essential in the creation of estrogen. A diet that’s low in calories and fat can result in nutritional deficiencies that contribute to irregular periods and bone loss. This is not to say that every woman that experiences missed or irregular periods will be underweight or nutritionally deficient. Many are at a normal weight and some are even what is considered “overweight” on the BMI scale. (this might not need to be stated since the article is all about varied reasons periods are irregular)

Cause #4: Over-Exercising

Moderate exercise is essential to heart health, mood regulation, a good sleep schedule, and maintaining a healthy body weight, however, too much exercise can put excess pressure on your adrenal, thyroid, and pituitary glands. Women who start vigorously exercising (for example, you’ve started training for a marathon) can stop getting their period suddenly. The stress hormone, cortisol, will be released in response to a real or perceived stress, physical (like exercise) or emotional. With the societal pressures today for women to stay thin and in shape, some will feel they need to exercise more than a healthy amount. This kind of exertion can increase stress and deplete the body of energy that it needs to regulate and release sex hormones.

Cause #5: Thyroid Disasters

Although this may be an indiscernible problem, your thyroid can cause many issues related to hormonal imbalances. Studies have shown that thyroid disorders may actually be one of the leading causes of missed periods, affecting nearly 15% of amenorrhea patients. The thyroid gland largely controls your metabolism and impacts many sex hormones, therefore, thyroid disorders like hypothyroidism or hyperthyroidism can cause widespread symptoms like changes in estrogen and therefore missed periods. (shorten sentence, repetitive)

Cause #6: Change in Birth Control Methods

Some women will stop getting their period, somewhat intentionally, while on birth control and will notice that even when they stop the pill, their period doesn’t return. While we advise that a woman’s period should adjust within a few months of stopping the pill, many women will experience missed or irregular periods for years afterward. 

A woman’s menstrual cycle is composed of rising and falling levels of estrogen and progesterone, but when taking birth control pills, estrogen levels are sufficiently high to fool the body into thinking it’s pregnant, resulting in irregular periods. When you switch from one birth control method to another or quit birth control altogether, it can take the body many months or even years to return to homeostasis.

 Cause #7: Ongoing Hormonal Imbalances and Disorders

Polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) is a hormonal imbalance in women that negatively impacts ovulation. A woman with PCOS experiences altered levels of sex hormones that can result in abnormal bodily functions including blood sugar problems, abnormal facial body hair growth, weight gain, acne, and irregular menstrual cycles. It can also lead to premature menopause, occurring prior to the age of 40, which can cause missed periods, hot flashes, night sweats, and vaginal dryness. 

Cause #8: Food Allergies and Sensitivities

An undiagnosed gluten sensitivity or celiac disease – meaning you are not taking medication or monitoring it – can both impact your hormone levels. These conditions can result in nutrient deficiencies, negatively affect gut health, and add chronic stress to your adrenal glands, which have the ability to affect sex hormone production.

While some of these causes are relatively unavoidable, it’s crucial that you are paying honest attention to how each element of your lifestyle affects your health; that way you can make choices to eliminate or tweak aspects that may be causing irregular periods. If you’ve been dealing with missed periods for a while, speak to your doctor about running some important tests that can find hormone imbalances and other issues. Many experts will recommend a three-tier treatment strategy that looks something like this: 1) Make appropriate diet, lifestyle, and stress-reduction changes; 2) Use natural remedies when you need extra support; and 3) Only if you find that those aren’t working, discuss hormonal pills or procedures with your healthcare provider. 

Pap Smears

Everything You Need to Know About Pap Smears

What is a Pap Smear?

A Pap smear, formally known as the Papanicolaou test, is a procedure in which cells are scraped from the cervix and examined using a microscope. The test is used to detect cell abnormalities that could potentially be a sign of cervical cancer or other conditions, such as infection, HPV, and inflammation. A Pap smear is the best means to discover precancerous conditions and concealed tumors that may lead to cervical cancer. 

So, what exactly happens during a Pap smear? Well, we’re glad you asked. When performing a Pap smear, your gynecologist will insert a speculum into the vagina in order to widen the opening and exam both the cervix and the vagina. The doctor then takes a sample of the cervical cells using either a small spatula or brush. These samples are then placed into a solution, transferred into a small glass slide, and sent to a laboratory for cytological examination. 

Why Should I Get a Pap Smear?

The primary benefit of a Pap smear test is that it screens for cervical cancer and has saved the lives of many women since it’s discovery in the mid-1900s. Cervical cancer occurs when cervical cells become abnormal and expand uncontrollably over time. The cancer cells invade deep into the cervical tissue and, in advanced cases, the cancer cells spread to other organs in the body.

What to Do If Your Pap Smear Is Abnormal

Pap test results can take as long as three weeks. If your test results come back normal, you can wait up to three years before your next Pap smear. 

If a test indicates that something is abnormal, it does not mean that you have cancer, but an abnormal test does mean that the cells of the cervix do not look normal. Because Pap smears are a screening test and not a diagnostic test, it cannot tell for certain that cancer is present. An abnormal test could indicate that there is inflammation or minor cell changes called dysplasia – these cells look abnormal but are not cancerous. 

Whatever the case may be, your doctor will contact you in order to schedule a follow-up. In many cases, immediate treatment can prevent cervical cancer from developing, so early detection and following up is critical. 

Most issues that end up being non-cancerous but are still detected in a Pap smear tend to clear up or go back to normal on their own. In order to verify that this is the case, your doctor will probably recommend having a follow-up test within the next few months.

How to Prepare For Your Pap Smear

When Should You Start Getting Screened?

Women should have a Pap smear every two years starting at the age of 21. After age 30, you may choose to receive the HPV test, performed at the same time as your Pap smear. You may also choose to decrease the frequency to every three years if you’re low-risk and have always had normal results up to this age. 

Despite what many women believe, you are never too old for a Pap test. Most women over 65 do not need Pap smears, but it may be necessary if you have had treatment for precancerous or cancerous cells in the past 20 years. However, women that have had regular screenings in the previous 10 years and haven’t had precancerous cells found in the last 20 years should stop cervical cancer screenings. 

Before Getting a Pap Smear

There are certain things that you must avoid doing prior to getting a Pap smear:

  • Having sex
  • Using a tampon
  • Douching
  • Using medicine or cream in your vagina
  • Using spermicidal treatments

You’ll also want to avoid scheduling your Pap smear during your period because although the test can be done during a menstrual cycle, it is best to avoid that if possible. Cervical screening results are not always active and can sometimes show abnormal cells where they are not present. These are all things that can potentially cause a false-negative result due to the presence of inflamed cells. 

Don’t Skip Your Pap Smear

The momentary discomfort of a Pap smear is well worth the lifesaving results that can come from them. Pap smears are one of the most reliable cancer screenings currently available. 

It is important that you are taking your health needs into account that are specific to being a woman and not simply ignoring them. At Mid-Atlantic Women’s Care, we want to make sure you are healthy through all the seasons of your life. During your well-woman exam, your provider can screen for health problems and answer any of your questions and concerns.

Stress During Pregnancy

Managing Stress During Pregnancy

Let’s face it: pregnancy can be uncomfortable. And it can be stressful. You have people on all sides telling you that it’s such a wonderful time, that every change your body is undergoing is completely normal and natural, and all the while, you’re feeling too guilty to admit that those physical changes are leaving you feeling stressed. 

The morning sickness, mood swings, fatigue, hunger, not to mention the weight gain almost makes it feel like you’re no longer in control of your body. 

We want to assure you that it’s perfectly okay to have these mixed feelings about all these life changes. If you’re feeling stressed about your pregnancy, take heart in the fact that there are many ways to make the time during your pregnancy easier and way less stressful and they all boil down to these two lifestyle changes:

  1. Realize that you’ll have to develop new coping skills and routines during your pregnancy to carry over after the baby arrives. 
  2. Take time to organize your life to accommodate pregnancy and a new family dynamic.

Develop New Coping Skills and Routines Now

One of the most important things for you to do at this time is to take a step back and look at your current lifestyle: are you making time for the most important things – family, friends, relaxation, hobbies? Is there room in your schedule to accommodate new lifestyle changes? 

It may be hard to wrap your mind around it, but many aspects of your reality will have to change during and after pregnancy. Ask yourself these important questions:

  1. What aspects of my daily life are incompatible with my pregnancy or with a new baby? Maybe you commute by bicycle to work and will have to find another mode of transportation. Or maybe you go out with your partner every week and have a glass of wine with friends and you realize that you’ll have to find new places to hang out. Whatever it may be, taking stock of these changes before they need to happen will save you a lot of stress in the future.
  2. How do I currently manage stress? Can I use these same methods during pregnancy? If not, what are some other methods I could try? Let’s say you used to meet for cocktails with your girlfriends to relieve stress after a long week. Maybe instead you and those same friends go to a yoga class and then meet for tea after. A much more pregnancy-friendly option.
  3. How can my partner and I communicate productively? Good communication is absolutely key during this time. If you are feeling frustrated or need more from your partner, tell them. 
  4. Are we financially prepared? It’s no secret that children can be expensive but with prior planning, it is completely manageable. Determine if you will need to adjust the household budget and how you want to go about doing that. Consult a professional if this is an area you don’t feel completely comfortable in.
  5. Will it be beneficial to set boundaries with family? A new baby is an exciting time for both you and your family but you have to decide how intimate of an involvement you want between your baby, your family, and your in-laws. Are there certain topics you don’t want them involved in? Let them know that before the baby even arrives. 

If you need help evaluating these questions, don’t hesitate to consult with your provider. We’ve been through this many times and we’re here to help!

Organize Your Life to Minimize Stress

The best way to handle stress is to get ahead of it and this is just as applicable during pregnancy. If you modify your life as early as you can, then it won’t all hit you at once and knock you off your feet. Here are our suggestions:

  • Formulate new routines early on in your pregnancy: Your life after the baby is born is going to look a bit different and it’s best to establish those new routines before that time comes. This might include meal prepping on the weekends, creating grocery lists rather than roaming around the store for hours, and making plans to see friends rather than relying on spontaneous hang-outs.
  • Write things down: hormonal changes can cause pregnant women to become a little forgetful. It’s completely natural but there are also easy ways to combat this. Write down your new schedule, jot down reminders and to-do lists, record important dates in the calendar app on your phone and set reminders. If this isn’t something you do regularly, now is the perfect time to start.
  • Create a list of activities that relieve stress for you so that before you even get stressed, you know exactly how to cope with it. Here are some ideas: going for a walk, meditating, taking a long bath, pampering yourself, getting a professional pedicure, etc.. 
  • Find an unbiased sounding board: Find someone – a therapist, a local or online community of mothers, etc. – with whom you can speak openly about your stress. Because they have no involvement in your pregnancy but they do have knowledge of prior experience, they can provide you with feedback that gives you the reassurance that what you’re going through is normal. 

Have you ever heard the saying “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure”? This quote is just as applicable in managing stress during pregnancy as with any medical procedure. Many women go through postpartum blues due to changes in hormones and lifestyle. Preparing for these changes prior to them occurring will help in keeping you grounded after your new baby is born.


Finding Dr. Right: What to Look for in a Gynecologist & Steps to Finding the Perfect One

When it comes to finding the perfect gynecologist, it takes a little more than a recommendation from a friend. Whether you’ve recently moved, are seeing a gynecologist for the first time, or want someone different from your current provider, this is an important decision for your health.

It can be a daunting task to find a healthcare provider of any kind, especially one that you will form such an intimate relationship with and there are several things you’ll want to look for in a gynecologist.

Step 1: Evaluate Your Needs

There are a variety of gynecologic services out there and different gynecologists specialize in different areas under the broad topic of women’s care.

If you’re looking for someone to conduct your annual well-woman exam – which may include breast exams, pelvic exams, evaluation, counseling, Pap Smears, and a host of other services – then a general gynecologist or women’s health specialist would be a good choice for you. 

If you want to get pregnant, we recommend looking for an obstetrician-gynecologist, a doctor that specializes in family planning, pregnancy, and baby delivery. 

If you have specific concerns or conditions you want to address, they will likely fall under one of gynecology’s many subspecialties, which range from gynecologic cancer to infertility to urogynecology and much more. When you bring up these specific concerns with your gynecologist, he or she may send you to a specialist for advanced treatment. 

One of the best things about Mid-Atlantic Women’s Care is that whatever type of care you are seeking, we have high-quality physicians that specialize in it and probably under the same roof. 

Step 2: Make a List & Do Your Research.

To find the perfect gynecologist, you first have to define what “perfect” looks like to you. Every woman has a different interpretation of what is important to her healthcare experience. So before beginning your search, define “perfect” by making a list of traits that are important to you in a gynecologist.

Here are a few factors you should look for in a gynecologist.

  • They come highly recommended. 

One of the best ways to find the perfect gynecologist is to ask women you trust – family, friends, your primary care provider. If they can vouch for the doctor’s experience, bedside manner, and skills, they might be a good fit for you as well.  

  • They accept your insurance. 

Cost is an important consideration when choosing medical services of any kind. If the gynecologist is not within the network that your insurance offers coverage for, you’ll end up paying out-of-pocket for your care, which can quickly add up. 

Give your insurer a call at the start of your search to see which gynecologists in your area are included in your insurance plan. 

  • They receive good reviews.

Once you have the names of a few gynecologists, look up their reviews on medical-rating websites like Healthgrades, Vitals, and Zocdoc. These websites are great because they allow current patients to rate doctors based on qualifications like office environment, staff friendliness, doctor-patient relationships, ease of scheduling appointments, and trustworthiness.

You can also see patient comments and overall ratings. If you see one or two negative reviews among a host of positive reviews, those are not a huge concern. But dozens of negative reviews should be a red flag.

  • They’re experienced and educated.

While you are already searching online, check out the gynecologist’s credentials. The same website from above should offer the doctors bio as well as on the practice’s website.

From these sources, you should be able to find out where the doctor went to medical school and completed their residency, if their board certified by the American Board of obstetrics and gynecology, how many years they’ve practiced, and what their specialties are. 

Just because the doctor has a medical degree doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the perfect gynecologist for you. If you are dealing with a particular condition, find out what experience this doctor has in treating it.

  • You feel comfortable with them.

Remember, this is someone that you are going to cultivate a very intimate relationship with. You need to be completely comfortable with the person that is performing your gynecologic exam and who will be asking you very personal questions about your reproductive health.

There are several things that go into this evaluation but one of the most prevalent is gender. Some women prefer to be seen by a doctor of the same gender, while others have no preference at all. You should factor that into your search.

  • They have similar values to you.

When it comes to topics such as birth control, contraceptives, family planning, and reproductive health, finding a provider who shares your views and values increases the likelihood that you will be a satisfied patient.

This can be hard to judge prior to your appointment. Let’s say you go to a gynecologist seeking contraception and, upon discussing this during your appointment, you discover that your doctor does not believe in birth control. They are, therefore, not able to meet your needs and it’s time to re-evaluate and find a new gynecologist that can.

Step 3: Call the Practice

This is a simple step but we highly recommend calling ahead to a prospective practice to gauge their quality of service based on how they treat you over the phone. 

There’s a lot you can learn about any business from how they treat potential customers over the phone. If they seem unable to answer your questions or unorganized with patient and doctor information, that doesn’t speak to their competency as a practice. If you feel like you’re being treated like just another patient, that will only be more pronounced during an appointment. 

Trust your gut in this scenario and make the best choice for you, even if it means you have to start your search all over again.

Step 4: Evaluate Your Experience Post-Appointment

Bedside manner is important to assess with any doctor but it’s especially important that the doctor who you are trusting your reproductive health with is respectful, competent, and compassionate. Try discussing the topics of sex, contraception, pregnancy, or your overall well-being with someone who seems like s(he) couldn’t care less or worse, is judging every word you say. Oof, no thank you. If they make no effort to ease your discomfort – or heighten it for that matter – they are not the right doctor for you. 

A good doctor won’t make you feel like you’re just another patient taking up time in their busy schedule. They will listen but also engage in dialogue. You should expect that your doctor listens well, hears your questions and concerns, and responds respectfully, explaining his/her course of actions or advice in a way you can understand. 

If you can get anything from this guide, it should be this: Don’t settle. There are physicians out there who want to help and spend time with you.

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